You're brilliant. She just doesn't know it.

A first date is a strange thing.
The Bay Area is full of brilliant people who are bad at connecting romantically.
I'm here to help.

You've been on enough bad dates to know something is off. You just can't see what it is — because you're the one inside it.

01 The profile that gets skipped Bad photos. A bio that reads like a résumé. She's already moved on before you get a chance to say a word.
02 Interview meets résumé You ask question after question, then fill the silence with your job title, your TC, your startup's Series B. She's looking for a human being, not a LinkedIn profile.
03 Overthinking everything You're so in your head that the silences stretch. She reads it as boring. You were just thinking too hard about what to say next.
04 Too eager, too fast You like her — so you show every card on the first date. It doesn't read as genuine. It reads as desperate.

Services

TWO WAYS IN

Service 01 of 02

PROFILE
OVERHAUL

Your profile is the first impression. I will make it warm, human, and interesting — without making it feel like a performance.

Full audit of your current profile
Photo selection & reshooting guidance
Bio rewrite — personality first, not résumé
Opening message strategy

Service 02 of 02

1-ON-1
COACHING

We will meet in person and do a mock date. Then I tell you exactly what's working and what isn't. You'll leave with two or three things that will change your next real date.

In-person mock date at a real SF venue
Conversation, listening & story-telling skills
Body language, presence & eye contact
How to build connection, not perform it
Written debrief + specific action points

About With Isa

I'VE BEEN ON THE OTHER SIDE

Hi, I'm Isa! Glad you're here — I think you will be too.

I moved to the US when I was 21, alone and single, with zero idea how American dating worked. Luckily, I have always been a curious person who enjoys getting to know people and understanding relationships and connections.

Over the years living in the Bay Area and New York, I have been on countless dates, fortunately and unfortunately. I genuinely enjoyed meeting so many people: different backgrounds, different personalities, different stages of life. Somewhere along the way I realized that dating is really more about getting to know yourself than the other person. And once you understand that, connecting with someone completely different from you starts to feel a lot less scary. But oh boy is dating exhausting! I've been on the other side of every bad date you've ever had.

Gradually, I became the person my friends came to when a date went wrong, when a text wasn't getting replied to, when they couldn't figure out what they were doing that kept pushing people away.

Here's what I kept noticing in the Bay Area: brilliant, kind, accomplished men who just... disappear on a first date. And we just need to acknowledge that not everyone is naturally good at this. There's no such thing as small talk where I grew up. A first date with a stranger where you're quietly trying to test chemistry? That's not organic. That's a skill. And skills can be learned.

I'm not a therapist — I'm a woman who has sat across the table, and I know within minutes what's working and what isn't. I know what makes a woman feel comfortable, curious, and excited to see someone again. You need to know yourself, be aware of what you're like in these naturally awkward settings, know what to look for on the other side of the table, know where the safe belt is, then just hit the play button and enjoy! All of this can be taught. And that's why I'm here ;)

How it works

THREE STEPS

Step one

You reach out

Send me a short message about where you are and what keeps going wrong. I read everything personally. If I think I can help, I'll reply within 48 hours.

Step two

We meet in SF

We do a mock date at a real venue — a café, a bar, wherever makes sense. I play the date. You just be yourself. That's where the real work happens.

Step three

Honest feedback

I tell you exactly what I observed — what landed, what didn't, and the two or three specific things that will make the biggest difference on your next real date.

GET
IN
TOUCH

I work with a small number of clients at a time — intentionally. Send me a note. If it seems like a good fit, I'll reach out to schedule a time to meet.

Location

San Francisco Bay Area · In-person only

Response time

Within 48 hours

Best for

Tech & AI · SF / South Bay / East Bay